Comments for Are You Adopted? Are You Sure? http://latediscovery.org/blog A blog about Late Discovery Adoptees Fri, 29 Apr 2011 01:22:22 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1 Comment on Hello world! by Karen http://latediscovery.org/blog/2008/03/30/hello-world/comment-page-1/#comment-2103 Karen Fri, 29 Apr 2011 01:22:22 +0000 #comment-2103 I am so glad to find this sight. I recently found out that I was adopted. I am 47 years old. You are right in saying no one understands and it is very hard to find a therapist who specializes in this situation. They have told me to move on and why am I complaining when I have a husband and children. I am so glad to find this sight. I recently found out that I was adopted. I am 47 years old. You are right in saying no one understands and it is very hard to find a therapist who specializes in this situation. They have told me to move on and why am I complaining when I have a husband and children.

]]> Comment on Adoptees who are found… and told they are adopted by Karen http://latediscovery.org/blog/2009/12/20/adoptees-who-are-found-and-told-they-are-adopted/comment-page-1/#comment-2102 Karen Fri, 29 Apr 2011 01:16:37 +0000 http://latediscovery.org/blog/2009/12/20/adoptees-who-are-found-and-told-they-are-adopted/#comment-2102 Special thanks to Ron and Gaye. One year ago at the age of 46 I found my adoption papers while trying to find my mothers will. I have been completely and totally devistated beyond belief. My whole entire family that I grew up with and thought were my biological family knew about my secret. I feel I can no longer trust anyone. For 46 years everyone lied to me. Finding the papers on my own and no one having the nerve to do what was right, like your cousin. has left me with such anger in my heart. I have cried everyday since this discovery. We have the right to know where we came from, not only for health reasons but to know what are biological make up is. I thank you for this sight. I have not been able to find anyone who understands what my feelings are like right now. They want me to be the person I was but I am struggling so much. Special thanks to Ron and Gaye. One year ago at the age of 46 I found my adoption papers while trying to find my mothers will. I have been completely and totally devistated beyond belief. My whole entire family that I grew up with and thought were my biological family knew about my secret. I feel I can no longer trust anyone. For 46 years everyone lied to me. Finding the papers on my own and no one having the nerve to do what was right, like your cousin. has left me with such anger in my heart. I have cried everyday since this discovery. We have the right to know where we came from, not only for health reasons but to know what are biological make up is. I thank you for this sight. I have not been able to find anyone who understands what my feelings are like right now. They want me to be the person I was but I am struggling so much.

]]> Comment on LDAs recognized by the US government by Ron Morgan http://latediscovery.org/blog/2009/12/21/ldas-recognized-by-the-us-government/comment-page-1/#comment-1086 Ron Morgan Sat, 26 Dec 2009 18:09:01 +0000 http://latediscovery.org/blog/2009/12/21/ldas-recognized-by-the-us-government/#comment-1086 Hi Amanda, I noticed the links to the state-by-state access information but haven't followed them to see how accurate they are. Hi Amanda,

I noticed the links to the state-by-state access information but haven’t followed them to see how accurate they are.

]]> Comment on LDAs recognized by the US government by Amanda http://latediscovery.org/blog/2009/12/21/ldas-recognized-by-the-us-government/comment-page-1/#comment-1082 Amanda Sat, 26 Dec 2009 04:59:48 +0000 http://latediscovery.org/blog/2009/12/21/ldas-recognized-by-the-us-government/#comment-1082 I agree! The Child Welfare office has been putting out a whole lot of adoptee-rights-movement relevant stuff lately. Have you seen their state-by-state access to information and original birth certificate report? I agree!

The Child Welfare office has been putting out a whole lot of adoptee-rights-movement relevant stuff lately. Have you seen their state-by-state access to information and original birth certificate report?

]]> Comment on Adoptees who are found… and told they are adopted by Gaye Tannenbaum http://latediscovery.org/blog/2009/12/20/adoptees-who-are-found-and-told-they-are-adopted/comment-page-1/#comment-1065 Gaye Tannenbaum Tue, 22 Dec 2009 14:36:35 +0000 http://latediscovery.org/blog/2009/12/20/adoptees-who-are-found-and-told-they-are-adopted/#comment-1065 Beautifully written Ron. I was told by my younger sister at age 31. She had just learned about my adoption from an older cousin. I told this tale to a co-worker who I would have liked to become friends with. She flat out told me that if my a-parents didn't want me to know I was adopted, my cousin had NO RIGHT to tell me. I told her that I did not agree (and excuse me for breathing, but it's my life and my adoption, right?) and that as far as I was concerned, once the "adopted child" turns 21, the gloves are off. Give the a-parents fair warning first, but set a deadline. Be prepared for backlash though. I can name at least three dozen people who knew I was adopted. Why is it fair that THEY knew but I did not? Beautifully written Ron. I was told by my younger sister at age 31. She had just learned about my adoption from an older cousin. I told this tale to a co-worker who I would have liked to become friends with. She flat out told me that if my a-parents didn’t want me to know I was adopted, my cousin had NO RIGHT to tell me. I told her that I did not agree (and excuse me for breathing, but it’s my life and my adoption, right?) and that as far as I was concerned, once the “adopted child” turns 21, the gloves are off. Give the a-parents fair warning first, but set a deadline. Be prepared for backlash though.

I can name at least three dozen people who knew I was adopted. Why is it fair that THEY knew but I did not?

]]> Comment on Helen Riley’s excellent article in “Family Relationships Quarterly” by david baxter http://latediscovery.org/blog/2008/04/01/helen-rileys-excellent-article-in-the-family-research-quarterly/comment-page-1/#comment-887 david baxter Sun, 04 Oct 2009 03:48:15 +0000 http://latediscovery.org/blog/2008/04/01/helen-rileys-excellent-article-in-the-family-research-quarterly/#comment-887 Please contact above e-mail Please contact above e-mail

]]> Comment on Helen Riley’s excellent article in “Family Relationships Quarterly” by david baxter http://latediscovery.org/blog/2008/04/01/helen-rileys-excellent-article-in-the-family-research-quarterly/comment-page-1/#comment-886 david baxter Sun, 04 Oct 2009 03:45:41 +0000 http://latediscovery.org/blog/2008/04/01/helen-rileys-excellent-article-in-the-family-research-quarterly/#comment-886 I donated sperm at RPA hospital,camperdown, Sydney N.S.W. in July 1978 and July 82. Remember seeing you on TV a few years ago.Hows your work going. Is there a register yet. I donated sperm at RPA hospital,camperdown, Sydney N.S.W. in July 1978 and July 82. Remember seeing you on TV a few years ago.Hows your work going. Is there a register yet.

]]> Comment on Helen Riley’s excellent article in “Family Relationships Quarterly” by glenys http://latediscovery.org/blog/2008/04/01/helen-rileys-excellent-article-in-the-family-research-quarterly/comment-page-1/#comment-43 glenys Mon, 06 Oct 2008 09:19:27 +0000 http://latediscovery.org/blog/2008/04/01/helen-rileys-excellent-article-in-the-family-research-quarterly/#comment-43 I discovered I was adopted just 2 months after my 40th birthday. What a rollercoaster of emotions, some times I still feel angry about it, most times I am at peace with it. I have regular weekly contact with my birth mother, and we visit each other for holidays. What an education in what aspects of myself are hereditary and what are learned. I would like to talk to people who want to discuss their experiences also. I would also like to help anyone who is at the beginning stages of the experience and try to help them through their emotions. I discovered I was adopted just 2 months after my 40th birthday. What a rollercoaster of emotions, some times I still feel angry about it, most times I am at peace with it. I have regular weekly contact with my birth mother, and we visit each other for holidays. What an education in what aspects of myself are hereditary and what are learned. I would like to talk to people who want to discuss their experiences also. I would also like to help anyone who is at the beginning stages of the experience and try to help them through their emotions.

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